Less Is More

Sometimes less is indeed more. Today is Valentine's Day and many men will go all-out and have a dozen red roses delivered to their sweetie's office (so the other girls can get jealous) and probably take them out to a price-fixe dinner. (Think the restaurant scene near the end of the movie Valentine's Day.) Despite the gesture, many of these women will be disappointed that they only received a dozen red roses because they were also hoping for a box from Tiffany's or Louis Vuitton. 


I remember one year when I bought my girlfriend (besides a couple other things) a pair of concert tickets to see Christina Aguilera and The Pussycat Girls. The seats were center-stage within the first 10 rows. After opening-up the gift I noticed something was different about her. Upon inquiry, she didn't hesitate to tell me that the guy she was dating two months prior had gotten her tickets to the same concert and that those tickets were front row. I don't remember all the details after this incident, but suffice it to say that we broke-up soon thereafter. As for the concert tickets, I ungifted them and sold them to one of my buddies. Ironically, when this girl discovered my uberdater blog she emailed me that she is "Not impressed!!! I thought you thought more of women." I guess she doesn't get it that it is women who behave like her that bring-out the uberdater alter ego in me.


So, gentleman, the best strategy is to get your date a holiday card and little or nothing else for valentine's day. In other words, you can't go wrong if you merely let a Hallmark card put your feelings into words. On the other hand, if you make a more solemn effort to acknowledge the holiday and your feelings for her, you're likely to disappoint and not meet her expectations.